There was a stingy and rich businessman. One day, he invited the local governor to his house for dinner. So he told his cook to prepare the most expensive and delicious food for his guest. During the dinner, the cook prepared Shark Fin Soup, Abalone, etc for them. The businessman was very happy until the last dish, when the Peking Duck was served. The duck had only one leg!!! The businessman was very angry and demanded the cook to give his explanation.
The cook replied, "Sir, the ducks in your house had only one leg". "That's impossible!" the businessman said. "All right, we shall go to the backyard and have a look whether the ducks have two legs or one leg."
As it was the night already and all the ducks were sleeping, they were all standing on one leg. The cook said, "Sir, see I told you, the ducks have only one leg." The businessman was not convinced, and he started to put his hands together and clap very loudly. The ducks were wakened up and started to run here and there. The businessman said, "Now you tell me, the ducks have how many legs."
The cook replied, "Sir, if you have given me the clap, I would have given you two legs too".
Everybody needs a pat on the shoulder to continue working. When was the last time, you show your appreciation to people who helped you or work for you?
Now if you have a role model (it can be a friend or famous people), who is able to score 100 points each for the above 5 characteristics, how much points do you give yourself? If you are not able to score full points, start working on it and maybe you can be somebody else's role model in future.
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Saturday, October 25, 2008
Life Skill #4 To overcome excessive worry and tension
Long time ago in China, there was a couple with a twins. One was very positive, but the other one was very negative. During their birthday, their parents decided to give them birthday presents. For the negative child, their parents gave him lots of toys. They thought this would make him happy. As for the positive child, the parents thought that since this child was already positive, just gave him some white papers.
However, when the couple went to see their children, they were surprised to see the negative child crying. The father asked, "My dear son, why aren't you happy? You don't like the toys?" The boy replied, "You give me so many toys to play, if they are spoilt and I don't know how to repair, what should I do?" And the boy continued to cry. When the couple went to see the positive son, they were surprised to see him so happy. The mother asked her son, "My dear son, why are you so happy?" He replied, "The white papers you gave me, I can use it to fold a boat, I can also write something on it. There are so many uses for paper. Thank you very much for your present."
Do you know that it is important to overcome worries and tension? Only when you are able to do so, you are able to enjoy better relationship with people, and face greater challenges.
However, when the couple went to see their children, they were surprised to see the negative child crying. The father asked, "My dear son, why aren't you happy? You don't like the toys?" The boy replied, "You give me so many toys to play, if they are spoilt and I don't know how to repair, what should I do?" And the boy continued to cry. When the couple went to see the positive son, they were surprised to see him so happy. The mother asked her son, "My dear son, why are you so happy?" He replied, "The white papers you gave me, I can use it to fold a boat, I can also write something on it. There are so many uses for paper. Thank you very much for your present."
Do you know that it is important to overcome worries and tension? Only when you are able to do so, you are able to enjoy better relationship with people, and face greater challenges.
Friday, October 24, 2008
Life Skill #3 . To maintain the high level of enthusiasm at workplace and in daily living
How many of us wake up every morning and say to ourselves, "What a good day. It's a nice good day for challenges again"? I guess not, most of us would probably want to remain in the bed, hugging our bolster. We seem like getting up from the wrong side of the bed everyday. So, what's the problem?
We add sugar to our coffee when it not bitter, we add salt when our soup is blend, we add chili when we want some spice in our food. We eat everyday and we add seasoning to our food everyday.
We work everyday, but do you add seasoning to your work everyday too? Do you know "Lack of enthusiasm will wrinkle your soul"? Spice up your life now!
We add sugar to our coffee when it not bitter, we add salt when our soup is blend, we add chili when we want some spice in our food. We eat everyday and we add seasoning to our food everyday.
We work everyday, but do you add seasoning to your work everyday too? Do you know "Lack of enthusiasm will wrinkle your soul"? Spice up your life now!
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Life Skill #2 To be accepted by others with ease
Did you come across somebody whom simply irritates you? I went to a restaurant for dinner with my friends the other day. The food was great and I even told my friends that we can come here again the next time.
After we finished the food, I asked the waiter for the bill. I was taken back when he coldly told me, "$38". No "please", and no "thank you"! Just "$38"!!! The worst part was after that I made the payment by credit card, he threw my card and the receipts on the table, without arranging them properly. Despite my image of "Mr. Nice Guy", I became nasty. I went forward to the waiter and asked him, "Do you have a problem? What kind of attitude is this?" If the waiter had treated me better, would I need to create a big fuss?
Sometimes in our life, did we also do something that irritates people? The golden rule applies, "Put on a smile, and you make a day for all of us".
After we finished the food, I asked the waiter for the bill. I was taken back when he coldly told me, "$38". No "please", and no "thank you"! Just "$38"!!! The worst part was after that I made the payment by credit card, he threw my card and the receipts on the table, without arranging them properly. Despite my image of "Mr. Nice Guy", I became nasty. I went forward to the waiter and asked him, "Do you have a problem? What kind of attitude is this?" If the waiter had treated me better, would I need to create a big fuss?
Sometimes in our life, did we also do something that irritates people? The golden rule applies, "Put on a smile, and you make a day for all of us".
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Life Skill #1 To express ourselves clearly and freely
How many of us are able to say what we want, how we feel? It was late Saturday night. Henry was not home from work yet. His wife was worried. But as soon as Henry stepped through the front door, the first thing that his wife greeted him was, "Where the Hell did you go? Do you know how late it is now?!"
You can imagine how the rest of the night went, as both of them started to argue. If Henry's wife was able to express herself better and said, "Henry, where did you go? I'm so worried about you," the argument could be prevented, and their feelings could be expressed.
Now, think about yourself, when was the last time you were so over-controlled by your own feelings and emotions that you were not able to express how you actually felt? Could the situation be improved?
You can imagine how the rest of the night went, as both of them started to argue. If Henry's wife was able to express herself better and said, "Henry, where did you go? I'm so worried about you," the argument could be prevented, and their feelings could be expressed.
Now, think about yourself, when was the last time you were so over-controlled by your own feelings and emotions that you were not able to express how you actually felt? Could the situation be improved?
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
SMILE!!!!!
She smiled at a sorrowful stranger.
The smile seemed to make him feel better.
He remembered past kindnesses of a friend
And wrote him a thank you letter.
The friend was so pleased with the thank you
That he left a large tip after lunch.
The waitress, surprised by the size of the tip,
Bet the whole thing on a hunch.
The next day she picked up her winnings,
And gave part to a man on the street.
The man on the street was grateful;
For two days he'd had nothing to eat.
After he finished his dinner,
He left for his small dingy room.
He didn't know at that moment
that he might be facing his doom.
On the way he picked up a shivering puppy
And took him home to get warm.
The puppy was very grateful
To be in out of the storm.
That night the house caught on fire.
The puppy barked the alarm.
He barked till he woke the whole household
And saved everybody from harm.
One of the boys that he rescued
Grew up to be President.
All this because of a simple smile
That hadn't cost a cent.
The smile seemed to make him feel better.
He remembered past kindnesses of a friend
And wrote him a thank you letter.
The friend was so pleased with the thank you
That he left a large tip after lunch.
The waitress, surprised by the size of the tip,
Bet the whole thing on a hunch.
The next day she picked up her winnings,
And gave part to a man on the street.
The man on the street was grateful;
For two days he'd had nothing to eat.
After he finished his dinner,
He left for his small dingy room.
He didn't know at that moment
that he might be facing his doom.
On the way he picked up a shivering puppy
And took him home to get warm.
The puppy was very grateful
To be in out of the storm.
That night the house caught on fire.
The puppy barked the alarm.
He barked till he woke the whole household
And saved everybody from harm.
One of the boys that he rescued
Grew up to be President.
All this because of a simple smile
That hadn't cost a cent.
Monday, October 20, 2008
Ten Secrets of Love
* The first secret - the power of thought.
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships.
Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires.
Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize her when you meet her.
* The second secret - the power of respect.
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself.
To begin to gain self-respect ask yourself, "What do I respect about myself?" To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself "What do I respect about them?"
* The third secret - the power of giving.
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive.
To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them.
The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.
* The fourth secret - the power of friendship.
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend.
Love does not consist of gazing into each other's eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction.
To love someone completely you must love them for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love's seeds grow.
If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.
* The fifth secret - the power of touch.
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.
* The sixth secret - the power of letting go.
If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. "Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life."
* The seventh secret - the power of communication.
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: "I Love You." Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone.
Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see them. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and ...why are you waiting?
* The eighth secret - the power of commitment.
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commmitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions.
Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option.
Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.
* The ninth secret - the power of passion.
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone, it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement.
Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences when you felt passionate. Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day with passion.
* The tenth secret - the power of trust.
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely.
Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them completely and unreservedly?" If the answer is "no", think carefully before making a commitment.
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships.
Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires.
Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize her when you meet her.
* The second secret - the power of respect.
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself.
To begin to gain self-respect ask yourself, "What do I respect about myself?" To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself "What do I respect about them?"
* The third secret - the power of giving.
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive.
To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them.
The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.
* The fourth secret - the power of friendship.
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend.
Love does not consist of gazing into each other's eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction.
To love someone completely you must love them for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love's seeds grow.
If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.
* The fifth secret - the power of touch.
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.
* The sixth secret - the power of letting go.
If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. "Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life."
* The seventh secret - the power of communication.
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: "I Love You." Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone.
Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see them. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and ...why are you waiting?
* The eighth secret - the power of commitment.
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commmitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions.
Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option.
Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.
* The ninth secret - the power of passion.
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone, it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement.
Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences when you felt passionate. Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day with passion.
* The tenth secret - the power of trust.
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely.
Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them completely and unreservedly?" If the answer is "no", think carefully before making a commitment.
Sunday, October 19, 2008
Every Woman is Beautiful
A little boy asked his mother "Why are you crying?"
"Because I'm a woman", she told him.
"I don't understand", he said.
His mum just hugged him and said, "And you never will"
Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?"
"All women cry for no reason", was all his dad could say
The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry.
Finally he put in a call to God; and when God got on the phone, he asked, "God, why do women cry so easily?"
God said:
"You see:
Every Woman is Beautiful.
"Because I'm a woman", she told him.
"I don't understand", he said.
His mum just hugged him and said, "And you never will"
Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?"
"All women cry for no reason", was all his dad could say
The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry.
Finally he put in a call to God; and when God got on the phone, he asked, "God, why do women cry so easily?"
God said:
"When I made the woman she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world; yet, gentle enough to give comfort"
"I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children"
"I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining "
"I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly"
"I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart"
"I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly"
"And finally, I gave her a tear to shed
This is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed."
"I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children"
"I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining "
"I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly"
"I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart"
"I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly"
"And finally, I gave her a tear to shed
This is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed."
"You see:
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair."
"The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides."
"The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides."
Every Woman is Beautiful.
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
Being happy can be hard work sometimes.....
Being happy can be hard work sometimes. It is like maintaining a nice home - you've got to hang on to your treasures and throw out the garbage.
Being happy requires looking for the good things. One person sees the beautiful view and the other sees the dirty window. Choose what you see and what you think.
Do you recall watching "boy meet girl" movies? Titanic would be a famous example. As the boy and girl struggle through thick and thin, you hoped and prayed the whole time that everything would work out even in the outcome of imminent doom. We gulped and dried our tears as the curtains came down. We cry at these movies because at our deepest level, we care. We hurt. There is an inner core in all of us, which is simply beautiful. When we see the plight of the starving around the globe on TV, we ache for them. We all care.
Accept that you have these capacities to love and emphasize and be HUMAN. Recognize your own worth and constantly remind yourself that you deserved to be treated well!
To learn to walk, we must risk falling over. To make a dollar, we must risk losing it. In loving and caring, we risk breaking our hearts. Getting a job is a risk. Crossing the road is a risk. Starting a family is a risk. Life is a risk. Winners take more risk than losers. That is why they win so much. Necessarily then, winners lose more than losers, but they are playing so often that their wins add up. We have a choice between living and merely existing.
COMPLIMENTS
Ever notice how good you feel when you give a compliment? Even if people are awkward in receiving them, they appreciate them. When we make it a habit to GIVE genuine compliments, we'll always be looking out for the good in people.
TWO HAPPINESS TRAP
We postpone our happiness - " I'll be happy when...."(When the house is paid off, when we go to Phuket, Bali, or Hawaii, when I find a better job...) We look back to the past and say, "If I have known today was going to be so awful, I would have been happy yesterday." HAPPINESS is not a when - Happiness is a NOW.
WORK
Lots of people will tell you, "I'll be happier if my job was easier." But when work gets easier, they quit, and look for another challenge. The truth is, we love challenge. Let's stop kidding ourselves! Nearly every job is repetitious. Often, the secret to enjoying a job is not to change your job but to change your ATTITUDE.
LAW OF PROGRESS
Everything has ups and downs - nothing travels in straight lines. This applies to your own progress in any project. Keep your eye on your target; keep putting in the effort and you reach your target despite the ups and downs. Successful people realize that they reach their goals by continuously correcting. We get off course, correct, and get back on course. Ships do it. Rockets and missiles do it. Correct. Correct. Correct.
LEARNING FROM CHILDREN
Spend time with children. Learn more about laughter, spontaneity, curiosity, acceptance, resilience, trust, determination, and your imagination.
The key to happiness is not that you never get upset, frustrated or irritated. It is how quickly you decide to snap out of it. Happiness is not dependent on your circumstances or your bank balance. Happiness is a DAILY DECISION.
Being happy requires looking for the good things. One person sees the beautiful view and the other sees the dirty window. Choose what you see and what you think.
Do you recall watching "boy meet girl" movies? Titanic would be a famous example. As the boy and girl struggle through thick and thin, you hoped and prayed the whole time that everything would work out even in the outcome of imminent doom. We gulped and dried our tears as the curtains came down. We cry at these movies because at our deepest level, we care. We hurt. There is an inner core in all of us, which is simply beautiful. When we see the plight of the starving around the globe on TV, we ache for them. We all care.
Accept that you have these capacities to love and emphasize and be HUMAN. Recognize your own worth and constantly remind yourself that you deserved to be treated well!
To learn to walk, we must risk falling over. To make a dollar, we must risk losing it. In loving and caring, we risk breaking our hearts. Getting a job is a risk. Crossing the road is a risk. Starting a family is a risk. Life is a risk. Winners take more risk than losers. That is why they win so much. Necessarily then, winners lose more than losers, but they are playing so often that their wins add up. We have a choice between living and merely existing.
COMPLIMENTS
Ever notice how good you feel when you give a compliment? Even if people are awkward in receiving them, they appreciate them. When we make it a habit to GIVE genuine compliments, we'll always be looking out for the good in people.
TWO HAPPINESS TRAP
We postpone our happiness - " I'll be happy when...."(When the house is paid off, when we go to Phuket, Bali, or Hawaii, when I find a better job...) We look back to the past and say, "If I have known today was going to be so awful, I would have been happy yesterday." HAPPINESS is not a when - Happiness is a NOW.
WORK
Lots of people will tell you, "I'll be happier if my job was easier." But when work gets easier, they quit, and look for another challenge. The truth is, we love challenge. Let's stop kidding ourselves! Nearly every job is repetitious. Often, the secret to enjoying a job is not to change your job but to change your ATTITUDE.
LAW OF PROGRESS
Everything has ups and downs - nothing travels in straight lines. This applies to your own progress in any project. Keep your eye on your target; keep putting in the effort and you reach your target despite the ups and downs. Successful people realize that they reach their goals by continuously correcting. We get off course, correct, and get back on course. Ships do it. Rockets and missiles do it. Correct. Correct. Correct.
LEARNING FROM CHILDREN
Spend time with children. Learn more about laughter, spontaneity, curiosity, acceptance, resilience, trust, determination, and your imagination.
The key to happiness is not that you never get upset, frustrated or irritated. It is how quickly you decide to snap out of it. Happiness is not dependent on your circumstances or your bank balance. Happiness is a DAILY DECISION.
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
I hope your day is a "Piece of Cake!"
Sometimes we wonder, "What did I do to deserve this?" or "Why did God have to do this to me?" Here is a wonderful explanation! A daughter is telling her Mother how everything is going wrong, she's failing algebra, her boyfriend broke up with her and her best friend is moving away.Meanwhile, her Mother is baking a cake and asks her daughter if she would like a snack, and the daughter says, "Absolutely Mom, I love your cake."
"Here, have some cooking oil," her Mother offers. "Yuck" says her daughter.
"How about a couple raw eggs?" "Gross, Mom!"
"Would you like some flour then? Or maybe baking soda?" "Mom, those are all yucky!"
To which the mother replies: "Yes, all those things seem bad all by themselves. But when they are put together in the right way, they make a wonderfully delicious cake!
God works the same way. Many times we wonder why He would let us go through such bad and difficult times. But God knows that when He puts these things all in His order, they always work for good! We just have to trust Him and, eventually, they will all make something wonderful!
God is crazy about you. He sends you flowers every spring and a sunrise every morning.
Whenever you want to talk, He'll listen. He can live anywhere in the universe, and He chose your heart.
Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.
Saturday, October 11, 2008
I've Learned
I've learned - that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved The rest is up to them.
I've learned - that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.
I've learned - that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I've learned - that it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.
I've learned - that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes.
After that, you'd better know something.
I've learned - that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do.
I've learned - that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
I've learned - that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I've learned - that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I've learned - that you can keep going long after you can't.
I've learned - that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I've learned - that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I've learned - that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
I've learned - that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I've learned - that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I've learned - that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I've learned - that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
I've learned - that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I've learned - that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.
I've learned - that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
I've learned - that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I've learned - that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish.
Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.
I've learned - that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.
I've learned - that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
I've learned - that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.
I've learned - that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I've learned - that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I've learned - that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other and just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
I've learned - that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I've learned - that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I've learned - that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I've learned - that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.
I've learned - that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
I've learned - that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
I've learned - that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I've learned - that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.
I've learned - that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.
I've learned - that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.
I've learned - that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I've learned - that it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.
I've learned - that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes.
After that, you'd better know something.
I've learned - that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do.
I've learned - that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
I've learned - that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I've learned - that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I've learned - that you can keep going long after you can't.
I've learned - that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I've learned - that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I've learned - that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
I've learned - that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I've learned - that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I've learned - that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I've learned - that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
I've learned - that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I've learned - that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.
I've learned - that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
I've learned - that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I've learned - that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish.
Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.
I've learned - that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.
I've learned - that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
I've learned - that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.
I've learned - that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I've learned - that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I've learned - that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other and just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
I've learned - that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I've learned - that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I've learned - that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I've learned - that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.
I've learned - that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
I've learned - that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
I've learned - that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I've learned - that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.
I've learned - that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.
Friday, October 10, 2008
Instructions For Life
1. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
2. Memorize your favorite poem.
3. Do not believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
4. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
5. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
6. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
7. Believe in love at first sight.
8. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who do not have dreams do not have much.
9. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it is the only way to live life completely.
10. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name-calling.
11. Do not judge people by their relatives.
12. Talk slowly but think quickly.
13. When someone asks you a question you do not want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
14. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
15. Say, "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
16. When you lose, do not lose the lesson.
17. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.
18. Do not let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
19. When you realize you have made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
20. Smile when picking up the telephone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
21. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other will.
22. Spend some time alone.
23. Open your arms to change but do not let go of your values.
24. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
25. Read more books and watch less TV.
26. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back,you will get to enjoy it a second time.
27. Trust in God but lock your car.
28. A loving atmosphere in your home is so important. Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonious home.
29. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation. Do not bring up the past.
30. Read between the lines.
31. Share your knowledge. It is a way to achieve immortality.
32. Be gentle with the earth.
33. Pray. There is immeasurable power in it.
34. Never interrupt when you are being flattered.
35. Mind your own business.
36. Do not trust a man/woman who does not close his/her eyes when you kiss.
37. Once a year, go some place you have never been before.
38. If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That is wealth's greatest satisfaction.
39. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.
40. Learn the rules then break some.
41. Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.
42. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
43. Remember that your character is your destiny.
44. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.
2. Memorize your favorite poem.
3. Do not believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
4. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
5. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
6. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
7. Believe in love at first sight.
8. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who do not have dreams do not have much.
9. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it is the only way to live life completely.
10. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name-calling.
11. Do not judge people by their relatives.
12. Talk slowly but think quickly.
13. When someone asks you a question you do not want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
14. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
15. Say, "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
16. When you lose, do not lose the lesson.
17. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.
18. Do not let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
19. When you realize you have made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
20. Smile when picking up the telephone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
21. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other will.
22. Spend some time alone.
23. Open your arms to change but do not let go of your values.
24. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
25. Read more books and watch less TV.
26. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back,you will get to enjoy it a second time.
27. Trust in God but lock your car.
28. A loving atmosphere in your home is so important. Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonious home.
29. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation. Do not bring up the past.
30. Read between the lines.
31. Share your knowledge. It is a way to achieve immortality.
32. Be gentle with the earth.
33. Pray. There is immeasurable power in it.
34. Never interrupt when you are being flattered.
35. Mind your own business.
36. Do not trust a man/woman who does not close his/her eyes when you kiss.
37. Once a year, go some place you have never been before.
38. If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That is wealth's greatest satisfaction.
39. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.
40. Learn the rules then break some.
41. Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.
42. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
43. Remember that your character is your destiny.
44. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.
Thursday, October 9, 2008
I am Contented
I love this message and I thought of sharing with you all.
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Dearest Everyone,
A nice article about the happiness of being contented. I love it and hope every kind soul out there will like it too.
Today, upon a bus I saw a lovely girl with golden hair. I envied her, she seemed so happy, I wished I were as fair. When suddenly she rose to leave I saw her hobble down the aisle, She had one leg and wore a crutch, but as she passed, a smile.
I stopped to buy some candy. The lad who sold it had such charm. I talked with him, he seemed so glad. If I were late, it would do no harm.
And as I left he mentioned to me, "Thank you, you have been so kind. It's nice to talk with folks like you," he said, "you see, I'm blind."
Later while walking down the street, I saw a child with eyes of blue. He stood and watched the others play, he did not know what to do. I stopped a moment and said, "Why don't you join the others, Dear?" He looked ahead without a word, and then I knew he couldn't hear.
With legs to take me where I go,
With eyes to see the sunset's glow,
With ears to hear what I would know...
Forgive me when I whine!
I'm blessed indeed! This world is beautiful!!
- Original Wordings (Unknown)
- Amended Wordings (Bryan Tango)
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Dearest Everyone,
A nice article about the happiness of being contented. I love it and hope every kind soul out there will like it too.
Today, upon a bus I saw a lovely girl with golden hair. I envied her, she seemed so happy, I wished I were as fair. When suddenly she rose to leave I saw her hobble down the aisle, She had one leg and wore a crutch, but as she passed, a smile.
I stopped to buy some candy. The lad who sold it had such charm. I talked with him, he seemed so glad. If I were late, it would do no harm.
And as I left he mentioned to me, "Thank you, you have been so kind. It's nice to talk with folks like you," he said, "you see, I'm blind."
Later while walking down the street, I saw a child with eyes of blue. He stood and watched the others play, he did not know what to do. I stopped a moment and said, "Why don't you join the others, Dear?" He looked ahead without a word, and then I knew he couldn't hear.
With legs to take me where I go,
With eyes to see the sunset's glow,
With ears to hear what I would know...
Forgive me when I whine!
I'm blessed indeed! This world is beautiful!!
- Original Wordings (Unknown)
- Amended Wordings (Bryan Tango)
Thursday, October 2, 2008
Power of Encouragement
There's a story about some frogs that taught a valuable lesson about life.
The story goes:
A group of frogs were traveling through the woods two of them fell into a deep pit. All the other frogs gathered around the pit. When they saw how deep the pit was they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead. The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all of their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, saying that they were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took heed of what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell down and died.
The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. He jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the other frogs said, "Did not you hear us?" The frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.
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An encouraging word to someone who is down can lift them up and help them make it through difficult times. A destructive word to someone who is down, can be what it takes to kill them. Be careful what you say. Speak life to those who cross your path.
Words are so powerful, its sometime hard to understand that an encouraging word can go such a long way. Keep this in mind, and always be careful and think about what you have to say.
The story goes:
A group of frogs were traveling through the woods two of them fell into a deep pit. All the other frogs gathered around the pit. When they saw how deep the pit was they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead. The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all of their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, saying that they were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took heed of what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell down and died.
The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. He jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the other frogs said, "Did not you hear us?" The frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.
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An encouraging word to someone who is down can lift them up and help them make it through difficult times. A destructive word to someone who is down, can be what it takes to kill them. Be careful what you say. Speak life to those who cross your path.
Words are so powerful, its sometime hard to understand that an encouraging word can go such a long way. Keep this in mind, and always be careful and think about what you have to say.
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